Complaining and Health
It is possible that people who complain about poor health tend to be sick more often. Health is to some degree, the end result of our feelings and thoughts. This is not always the case, as some people get sick simply because they are exposed to a bug. However, there are people who believe that things in life are not well. They end up having symptoms of not being well.
Many doctors have made the connection between illness and emotions of stress, anxiety and depression. According the world health organization, 70% or more of illness is connected to emotional factors. We need doctors to address our physical symptoms and we might also need to adjust our coping mechanisms to life if we want to get well soon.
I don’t know anyone who has made his or her way into healing through complaining. We might be asking for attention and sympathy through complaining, but wouldn’t it be better to ask for the love we need instead?
A client of mine used to complain that he was having a medical issues and try every way possible to end up at the hospital. He has had more surgeries than anyone else I know. When everyone was taking care of his every wish, he would admit he felt cared for. When he had to go to his empty home, he would suddenly get sick. I believe what he was missing in his heart was unattainable because of his continued addiction to complaining and what he got out of it.
One can not say that living a complaint free life will help us stay healthy or get well, but it will certainly help us to move away from emotions that can make us sick in the first place. Maybe we can define health as the fullness of living so we think in terms of how to live well.
Give yourself heart medicine with a little TLC. Do something today that is good for you. For example, maybe you need a nap, or relaxation time or maybe it is eating food that is healthy for your body. Also, see if you can find laughter and fun today. Laugh at least once and find the fun.
I came home from work early yesterday and was having an exceptionally though day with my back (major spinal fusion/cervical fusions). I just wanted to relax and feel sorry for myself. At forty-seven, I have a laundry list of medical issues that weigh me down. But when I plopped on the couch and watched you on Oprah, I was inspired! They say that eyes are the window to one's soul, and Will Bowen has the most amazing eyes! I was transfixed and not in an "icky" way! haha They twinkle and made me smile.
I complain every day about my pain and am on so many pain medications. You are right, the complaints do weigh me down, and I want to participate in the no complaint zone. I have ordered 10 bracelets for myself and some friends. I am writing to you to say thank you.
I am most grateful to God that I CAN walk; I have good friends, a loving family and a good job. I need to refocus my energies on being grateful and not wallow in self-pity for my myriad of medical problems. Thank you from the bottom of my heart and I can only hope that one day I can say thank you in person.
- Cindy Lafollett
Reprinted with permission from the book Complaint Free World, pg 58.